If I were to date someone 19 now, I would have the same reservations as you.I would be afraid of taking her away from her youth. If he's ready and understands how you feel and you openly express that, I don't see why it would be a problem. I have had guys and relationships out of my mind for a LONG time. You may want and be something completely different later on...hard to know at 25. I know what I want and how to get what Iwant out of life. I have always been the same since I was a teenager. Guess that' why I like older men than someone my own age : SMy daughter dated a man 20 years older then herself. It ended, and now she hangs her head in shame as it was a Daddy issue. Sometimes the difference in such an age gap doesn't always survive. It's success or failure is unlikely to be age related and more to do with how well you jointly manage the significant challenges of just life. And no, discounting the possibility that you may feel differently a few years from now, especially considering that you're not even dating the man yet, is not a sign of maturity, and neither is shooting snotty little barbs at posters who offer opinions divergent from yours. We reach different phases of our lives as we get older and with each new phase comes change.Personally I would love to have the same brain now as I had at 20 or 25 ( almost as much as I would like to have the same body I had at that age even though it was skinny ) albiet with the life lessons I have learned intact. I am a 38 year old female who is dating a 19 year old guy.If you find a 50 yr old man's body attractive enough to keep you interested then I suggest you might need glasses or you have never dated any hot young men who knew what they were doing. I would be more concerned about his maturity level.
We got along great and the age difference wasn't an issue for either of us. I feel ready for a lifelong, committed relationship. We are both quite spiritual in a very non religious way and work together in that way quite beautifully.when he is ready, will you be able to give that to him? Think 5 years, 10 years, 15 years, 20 years, 25 years, etc.I find his age of 19 to be more of a concern than the age difference.I was several years older than 19, but, I don't regret or think I lost anything in the period of our time together. We don't look physically or energetically like there's an age gap. I don't want to be a casuality in his love life since he is so young It was the same for us at the time.Everyone thought we were the same age because she looked young. Also, you keep posting, and those posts tell me that you really haven't thought this whole thing through, that you are caught up in the romance and fairytale, and you seem to be needing to push for people to agree with you, not give you their honest opinions. We aren't dating yet...we are really close friends. Who cares if everyone on this thread says you shouldn't date this man? There are a lot of smallminded people out there, don't let their opinions determine your love life. What's wrong with a 25 year old woman dating a 50 year old man? Now that we have all that out of the way, I think you aren't thinking carefully enough about what will happen. Though I am sure your brain is biologically mature enough to have good judgment and realize most of this when your brain isn't high and stupid due to love.