Obviously the time needed to heal is different for everyone.
Some professionals suggest waiting a year after the divorce before dating.
It is also critical that you remain in the role of parent and not turn into your child's best friend where you each gush about your new girl or boyfriend. Every child will react in his or her own way to a parent's dating after the divorce.
And as has been stated many times on this site, knowing your child will always help you better understand what may be going on for him/her.
The idea of getting back into the dating scene after years being married is daunting at best.
What you say to your children when you begin dating after your divorce will depend largely on their age. You'll be in bed when I get home."With school-age children (6-10) you can begin to provide more information.
If you need a reminder about what to expect at each developmental stage have a look here When talking with young children (infants and toddlers) describe the person you are seeing as a friend. I'll be back soon."With preschoolers (ages 3-5) still describe the person you will be going out with as as friend. You will likely want to have a more in-depth conversation about dating.
With teens (15-20) it is important to be honest about your actions. It's been long enough after the divorce that I am ready to meet some new people.
I'm wondering how you feel about that." Since your teens are also likely dating, it is important to talk with them about how it may be awkward to have a parent dating at the same time. How will my children be affected by my decision to date?
There are many things to consider when making the choice to begin dating after your divorce.