Actually, I got more instant attention in Southern California; the “Latino effect.” The only thing that makes me stand out to women here is my height, thank God for that one tall great uncle! Regarldess, I look on the bright side and see this as an advantage.I speak Spanish fluently; therefore, I can’t play the “…no jaaabl0 Españoler mucho bueno. I’m naturally outgoing and funny, so I can really be myself when speaking Spanish.Most of my close friends here in Medellin are foreigners and I have seen girls break their neck checking them out as we walk down the street.
So I do not have that instant “gringo effect” on them.
Penetrating that group of friends, playing “the game” in order to get to your “target girl” is hard work, and sometimes does not work if you don’t speak Spanish well enough for her to understand.
Many guys who come to Colombia cannot pick up girls in their own native language let alone in Spanish and some even have the audacity to say that the women here are just “gold diggers” or “too difficult” and that is not accurate at all.
More often than not I’m not even interested in talking to the girl; I just want to dance and have fun. Amazingly, when I do that, women are more attracted than when I start talking to them while dancing.
A certain amount of negligence after making an impression piques a woman’s interest, it is the whole psychological framework of the type of women who wants a strong man (check out this great article on Psychology Today by Gina Barreca, Ph.
I am actually Colombian, my family is Colombian, and more importantly (aside from my height, 6’2″) I look Colombian.