“I’m not a god damned mind reader.” The fade “is cowardly and at its root, dishonest.” If only the uninterested party would clarify its position in an explicit text, “I will feel validated that you had enough deference for whatever we had (even if it was just one night) to know that it needed to be ended in a mature and thoughtful manner.” As someone who has been in the position of both the fader and the faded, I respectfully disagree.
No matter which side of the phone I am suddenly not texting from, I prefer the unanswered text to the explicit breakup missive.
As Carter notes, “You don’t want to follow up with a ‘What happened to you? Those are his personal issues, and they’ve got nothing to do with you.
’ because that might seem desperate.” If you’re too shy to be straight with your fader, how can you expect him or her to be straight with you? All you have to know is that it’s not happening, and it’s nothing personal.
Or it is intensely personal, in which case: Do you really want him to spell it out for you?
If you feel that you personally benefit from explicitly breaking off a casual relationship, go ahead and bloviate on that QWERTY.I’m so glad you sent me this question, because I know so many people struggle with this issue.How do you “break up” or end things with someone who you are casually dating?To be clear, if the relationship has advanced to a mutually understood level of seriousness or exclusivity, you better put your fingers to work.And to be fair, the slow fade is not the optimal avoidance method. 10 Signs Your Ex Is Not Done Hurting You Yet Why I, As A Guy, Don't Like Having Mostly Male Co-Workers Stereotypes Still Rule the Earth!