When they finally manage to get past all of the chemical baggage that they had been carrying with them for so long, what you will find in most instances is that former addicts have just as many outstanding qualities as anyone else, and this can make them a joy to be around for family and friends alike. Is it wise to form a more intimate connection with an ex-addict or alcoholic, no matter how dramatically they appear to have turned their lives around?
In looking at the experiences of others, what we can say is that many who have formed romantic partnerships with former substance abusers have come to regret that decision immensely, while others have been able to establish satisfying permanent relationships with those who have successfully put their past addictions behind them.
But before they are ready to enter into a successful relationship, former substance abusers must put their past patterns of behavior completely behind them.
If you are planning to become involved with such a person, there is a chance it could work – but only if your prospective companion is serious and dedicated to his or her recovery.
Successful recovering addicts and alcoholics will have learned much about the importance of honesty and open communication during their rehabilitation process, and this can carry over into their relationships with those to whom they become close.
But when addicts and alcoholics suddenly begin closing down and become reticent to share what they are thinking and feeling, or to talk about what is happening in their lives, this is most likely a sign that something is wrong.
hey I think taking a chance on something that feels so right is great. He was living in Australia and me still in New Zealand when he first made contact with me almost a year ago.
I thanked him for being honest with me and that honest is very important.
So there really is no hard and fast rule here – but there are some things you should think about before getting more deeply involved with someone in recovery.
And if you do decide to date someone with a history of drug or alcohol use, there are a number of signs you must watch out for in order to make sure your new partner is living up to his or her promises of sobriety.
I'm afraid he might relapse and I would have to go through the craziness which I don't want to go through again. You know the risks: ~If you go for it you may lose everything ~If you don't, you may lose the love of your life Not easy to quote Shakespeare on a forum like this: "Better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all." "There is no pain greater than unrequited love" My fiance and I are both ex users and met after we both stopped using.
I need some advice on how I should handle this situation and should I take the chance? I would hate to have missed the opprotunity to find the love of my life due to the fact the each one of us were ex users.
Before becoming involved with them, it is important to sit down and have a good long talk about what those triggers might be, based on their past experiences and on the insights they have gained during their counseling sessions and during their time in AA or NA.