Earlier today, I ran across an interesting study on divorce titled ‘A Diamond is Forever’ and Other Fairy Tales: The Relationship between Wedding Expenses and Marriage Duration.The authors of this study polled thousands of recently married and divorced Americans (married 2008 or later) and asked them dozens of questions about their marriage: How long they were dating, how long they were engaged, etc.The particularly scary part here is that the average cost of a wedding in the U. is well over ,000, which doesn’t bode well for the future of American marriages.In the research paper, the authors suggest that the financial burden incurred by lavish, expensive weddings leads to financial stress for the couple, which ultimately tears the marriage apart.
Whatever you do after your marriage, don’t skimp on the honeymoon!
Perhaps the biggest factor is how many people attend your wedding: Couples who elope are 12.5x more likely to end up divorced than couples who get married at a wedding with 200 people.
Clearly, this shows us that having a large group of family and friends who support the marriage is critically important to long-term marital stability.
Of course, it’s important for us to keep in mind that these are all correlations with marriage stability, and they could be telling us any number of things.
For example, the “how much money you make” correlation could go either way: Either people in stabler marriages are more likely to have a higher income, or couples with a low income could be more likely to divorce.
Don’t jump into marriage before you really get to know someone.