In her book, Rebooting in Beverly Hills: A Wise and Wild Path for Navigating the Dating World, Miller not only recounts her struggles to forgive, forget and move on after the devastating failure of her third marriage (he cheated; she forgave; he kept cheating; she asked for a divorce).But she also shares how she re-started her love life, one lousy date at a time.For example, she let it be known among her friends that she was willing to be fixed up. Stop talking so much and listen instead Instead of doing all the talking, Miller decided to pay closer attention to what the men she was dating were saying.Later, she hired a matchmaker, albeit unsuccessfully (she later fired her). As a result, she spent more time asking questions and listening to the answers than she did talking about herself.That same report has found that divorced men and women both experience higher mortality rates and poorer mental health outcomes than their married counterparts. Her husband, an IT worker, is still employed, but working longer hours with fewer staff.So is there a less drastic alternative if you’re feeling the strain, if your marriage needs to decompress? Last September, their youngest son started university.In a few weeks’ time, she is flying to Madrid to stay with her oldest friend.
” asks Miller, “I made [dating] into a business strategy.” Miller divided her strategy for finding a mate into four categories: “pickups, fix-ups, matchmaking and Internet dating.” To navigate each category, she came up with a plan for forging ahead.‘It’s not a trial separation; neither of us wants to divorce.It’s a breathing space, a change of scenery and a chance to miss each other.Here, Miller shares seven tips for re-entering the dating world after divorce. Take the time to heal Don’t start before you’re ready.“You can’t see clearly when you’re still angry and heartsick,” says Miller, who took nearly two years to sort herself out emotionally before she began dating again.“Dating is tough” after divorce, confirms author Marcy Miller.