But it wasn't long before another publication warned of a spinster epidemic: In 2007, Time Out New York featured a cover modeled after the poster for the 1950s sci-fi flick Attack of the 50 Foot Woman.In perhaps the most revealing representation ever of our cultural attitudes toward unhitched chicks, a giant bombshell towers over skyscrapers and Matchbox-size cars, wielding a smartphone in her well-manicured hand. (The article, by the way, surveyed Manhattan's unattached ladies and discovered that women "were remarkably okay with being single.") The following year, urban theorist and University of Toronto management professor Richard Florida opined in The Boston Globe that when it comes to choosing where to live, "having an enticing 'mating market' matters as much as or more than a vibrant labor market." He advised that the East Coast and Midwest were "by far, the best places for single men"—in other words, there was a plenitude of single women to pick from.This unsettling assertion was thoroughly debunked by Susan Faludi in her groundbreaking book, Backlash: The Undeclared War Against American Women, which showed that the story was based on a "flawed and unpublished study," and that the terrorism line arose from a newsroom joke that made it into print.The magazine even retracted the story in 2006, 20 years after it was published.In fact, her dating experience had been so awful that she decided to infiltrate the event, figuring that the best of Silicon Valley would be on display. The night had barely begun, but she was already pessimistic."San Francisco's an awesome city, it's beautiful, but if this is what we're left with…." She gestured to the room and shook her head.This was Diane's last-ditch effort to meet a man in San Francisco.She clutched a cocktail and surveyed the candlelit bar in the city's formerly gritty Mission District. There were a lot of polo shirts, button-downs, and what appeared to be Dockers.
But it is precisely in times of change like these that dread about single women arises, argues Rebecca Traister, author of a book about single women to be published in 2015 by Simon and Schuster."The fact of men and women not marrying at the start of adulthood makes [social conservatives] panic," Traister says.
"If I were looking for a job, I'd go where the jobs were.
If I were looking for a man, I'd go where more men are."Never mind that most of the single women I know would rather become a spinster stereotype with two dozen cats than marry an old-fashioned drill sergeant.
Not only does he leave his house, he also cofounded the Brooklyn Brainery, which hosts classes on everything from physics to improv, to get other people to do the same.
That's how you meet someone—not by consulting a singles map, because the odds of discovering a match are deeply idiosyncratic and near impossible to accurately calculate, he says.
As the company put it in its fundraising plea, "There are tons more single women in NYC, and tons more single men in SF.