There are several reasons I’m for short first emails.
With online dating, the first message can make or break your chances of a successful first date.
For this discussion refers to your first message in online dating.
This will include whatever method the service you are using allows you to write a message to another member.
I would write overly long and, in my head, witty emails that very rarely received responses. My rule here is very simple: keep your first email very short.
Once, I wrote no less than two pages based on a girl’s heading to her profile. I thought I was making conversation but all I was making was a girl scared. Give anything longer than three sentences a good, hard look before sending.
As I discuss in my free online dating guide, successful online dating relies in part on making great first impressions.
Whether the first impression is in the photos you select for your profile, how you describe yourself, or the first email you write, taking time to make the best first impression is important.
The answer to that may seem obvious, but just in case it isn’t let me say: writing a great first message in online dating is critical to success or failure in your dating life.
This advice may still be helpful for sites such as e Harmony or Chemistry.com, however these services guide the communication and there is less “emailing” early on.
Writing the online dating first email is the area where I made the biggest mistakes for the longest period of time when I was dating online.
You can learn more details on my thoughts on this service in my article on How e Harmony Works.
No matter what service you choose, I hope my advice here will help you with your first messages.
[Read more: Read more first email examples from my working with a reader of this site] I hope my advice here is helpful for you however I also realize success is also often easier said than done.