Radical genuiness is when you understand the emotion someone is feeling on a very deep level. Radical genuineness is sharing that experience as equals. Putting them into practice is often more difficult.
Practice is the key to making validation a natural part of the way you communicate. Your best friend is upset because her husband cut up her credit card. Probably Level 2 is the highest level you could use.
Being able to accurately label feelings is an important step to being able to regulate them.
Some may not be clear about what they are feeling because they weren't allowed to experience their feelings or learned to be afraid of their feelings.
Self-validation is the recognition and acceptance of your own thoughts, feelings, sensations and behaviors as understandable. Multi-tasking while you listen to your teenager's story about his soccer game is not being present.
Learning how to use validation effectively takes practice. Being present means giving all your attention to the person you are validating.
One of the four options we have in any problem situation is acceptance.
Validation is one way that we communicate acceptance of ourselves and others. When your best friend or a family member makes a decision that you really don't think is wise, validation is a way of supporting them and strengthening the relationship while maintaining a different opinion.
Sometimes this type of validation helps someone sort through their thoughts and separate thoughts from emotions.