There aren’t as many conservative women with liberal men, a natural outgrowth of party affiliation by gender (women tend to identify as donkeys and men as elephants), but one example is James Carville and Mary Matalin.Yet the Carville-Matalin marriage is a national curiosity precisely because it’s so rare!Of course, we’re all human beings who need both types of social capital, and everyone determines which social factors matter most in the home, the epicenter of bonding.Politics consumes much of my life, which makes it basically a deal breaker for me.It’s like a chef who won’t date fruitarians: the discrimination seems reasonable, since cooking and sharing a diverse palette of meals dominates his life.There are couples who work on opposite sides of the political aisle, and it’s beautiful for them.He may be conditioned from birth, but there comes a time when he chooses Chomsky over Hayek.
Former Alaska Governor Sarah Palin was one of the earliest targets of Piker’s sexism.
Plenty of my close liberal friends who have similar backgrounds come to polar-opposite conclusions, and that’s dandy.
But it doesn’t mean I want that cognitive processing around me 24/7 in the most intimate of unions. Romance is a union of body, mind and soul, and when we’re out of sync on politics, it’s a huge mental obstacle.
This may be a chicken-or-egg matter, but culture and ideology profoundly shape behavior.
When a man’s strongly held values clash with mine, I’d rather say “Adios!
Obviously, not all liberal women are that hardline (including many close friends of mine).