Users skim profiles looking for a reason to send a message or dismiss (hint: do not mention your mom or exes).
Call it the algorithm method: Working with data crunchers at the dating sites, we put together 25 tips for writing the perfect profile, selecting the right photo, and really understanding your audience.
And a message that seals the deal on the trifecta of feeling hopeless: "Wussup babe.
Much of your destiny online depends on the quality of your online dating profile. It's time to stop getting passed over and start getting noticed. )." This new and improved statement provides bait for men who want to message you. Sometimes you like go out on a Friday night, but sometimes you are OK sitting in with a glass of wine and watching a movie, right?
Mentioning cats is fine, but mention “my cats” and you’re a weirdo.
The data shows that lesbians appreciate nice legs, gay men prize nice arms, and straight women and men are looking for flat stomachs above all else.
Instead, let's change the phrasing above to, "When I'm not out with my friends on a Friday night, I love curling up under the covers and watching a scary movie (any suggestions? Many men and women unintentionally use language that displays a lack of confidence.
)." In this revised statement, I have turned a cliché into a statement that has personality, flirts with the reader, provides bait and discusses the type of movies that I am specifically into. For example, writing that "I really to meet a man who is smart, fun and handsome," doesn't sound terrible, but the word "hope" implies that you are the one chasing and "hoping" things will turn out OK.
We have also included some not-so-great examples that we have seen many, many times.We even scoured the top 400 most popular Ok Cupid profiles—the hottest people on the site in ten US cities—to see what their profile pics could tell the rest of us about attracting a date.We couldn’t have done any of this without the help of the data maestros at Match and Ok Cupid: Christian Rudder, cofounder and president of Ok Cupid, and Jim Talbott, director of consumer insights at A high quality photo can really make the difference as well, so if you don’t have the best camera — find a friend who does.The bottom line is it is worth the investment of a little time and energy to have some good pictures taken of yourself.If you’re a gay man, pose outdoors—48 percent of the profile pics of the most popular gay men on Ok Cupid were snapped outside. ) Selfies are acceptable for women (45 percent of top-ranking straight women used them, as did 4 percent of lesbians), but not so much for men.