You’ll be able to celebrate the new adventure that lies before you.When a married couple decides to separate, the people in their lives often see it as the first step toward divorce. Some couples find that a temporary separation is just what they needed to work on their marriage and reconnect, while others might find that just remaining separated without ever taking that further step into divorce suits them just fine.
(Indeed, they exist in that state to this day.) The woman, happily living in a townhouse in Miami, plays tennis during the day and spends evenings with her lover, another woman.But, if you are dating someone so that you don’t have to be alone, or because you want a replacement for your ex, it’s not particularly fair to them – or you.Not only does it take advantage of their feelings, it can set you back on your road to healing from the separation.Until you’ve come to terms with who you are as a single, previously married person, you just don’t have the emotional availability to start something new. As Jackie Pilossoph (creator of the blog) told the Huffington Post, there are all sorts of distractions you can try.Take up a new hobby, invite friends around, throw yourself into your career: the main thing is to work on being strong and happy by yourself, rather than trying to get that from someone new. Only date someone if things really are over with your ex You might have begun the process of cutting financial and domestic ties with your partner but as clinical therapist Sherry Amatenstein, LCSW advises, you’re not ready to date someone new until you’ve cut the emotional ties too.When they came back together after 12 months apart, they were ready to really commit to the relationship and even decided to start a family.