Parents need to treat a brokenhearted youngster’s feelings seriously.
“Breakups are one of the major precipitators of suicidal gestures in young people,” says Dr. The vast majority of kids, though, will get over their hurt and be fine.
Teenagers haven’t yet learned how resilient the heart is.
The first time they experience romantic rejection, the sadness can seem bottomless.
Just look at the words used to describe affection between two young people: “infatuation,” “crush,” “puppy love.” If it feels like love to the two puppies, isn’t it love?When he’s ready to socialize, he’ll do so without any prompting. “My first year in college, I fell madly in love with this girl named Elyse. I couldn’t imagine ever being with anyone else, and I thought she felt the same way about me. I used to spy on her around campus; some nights I’d stand outside her dorm just to see if she walked in the front door with anybody.“One day, out of the blue, she told me that our relationship was getting too serious, and that she wanted to date other people. My friends couldn’t stand to be around me, and I don’t blame them!It will probably be some time before he abandons the hope that she’ll realize her mistake and come crawling back. However, blues that linger for more than a few weeks may warrant professional counseling.Remember, too, that teen relationships on the wane frequently flicker on again. Encourage him to get together with friends—but don’t nag.Moms and dads can aid the healing process by being generous with their time, patience and hugs.