Think about dating

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When I say "date," I'm referring to the old-school style of dating — not sleeping together or hooking up.Have a good vetting process and keep the pipeline filled.Once you have a road map of a partner that makes you happy, give attraction and chemistry a chance to develop, even if it takes five or more dates to figure it out.After you feel the chemistry, look carefully for the “interior” traits that count, like kindness, reliability, consistency, honesty and intelligence first. Is this person willing to accept you, your complexities, maybe your children? Are you on the same page with regards to finances, parenting, living situations, marriage or more kids?Dating from a place of anger doesn’t usually lead to good choices.Don’t skip the counseling sessions — they will help tremendously down the road. We do what is comfortable instead of what is right.There’s no better way to get to know someone than talking and spending time together.

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And, have you made as much peace as possible with your ex and the divorce?

I’m in it to win it, not in it for a minute.”At this point, I hope you’ve done the "inside work" necessary to find a healthy relationship.

Do you understand what went wrong in your relationship?

Dating after divorce isn’t easy, and will require a great group of people surrounding you to keep you motivated and inspired!

Maybe it’s your buddies from work, school, your family, neighbors or kids.

Here are 15 essential tips to follow: Psychotic optimism is my philosophy on love, which I’m spreading to everyone who will listen.

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