“Children, even when they’re grown, get attached to being important in their single parents’ lives, and they resent it when someone gets between them and the parent.” (MORE: How to Tell Your Adult Children You’re Divorcing) On top of the emotional reaction, Salamon says, adult children may also have anxiety about their parent’s ability to help out financially, as well as their own anticipated inheritance, which creates resistance to the prospect of their parents partnering up.Money-talk avoidance seems to be more common among the wealthy, but the taboo exists across all economic classes. And in these families, the parents put their relationship before the kids.Another’s girlfriend eventually broke up with him after several years because he rarely made time to spend alone with her, instead expecting constant family time with his son.
My date has only the fondest memories of watching his dad court his mom on their weekly date nights and annual parent-only vacations — in addition to the family roadtrip. “My dad made it clear that his relationship with my mom was the center of everything, while he was also the best dad ever,” he said.) highlighted a 2005 essay by Aylete Waldman about the fact that she puts her husband and their fantastic sex life above their four kids. Four children with whom I spend a good part of every day: bathing them, combing their hair, sitting with them while they do their homework, holding them while they weep their tragic tears. If a good mother is one who loves her child more than anyone else in the world, I am not a good mother. In the event you don’t seek a romantic partner, where do you focus that energy if not on your children? Looking forward to that business trip even though you have to leave the kids at home? And while you’re at it, indulge in your instincts to have a fulfilling and profitable career — without any guilt whatsoever! — even though our culture tells you that stay-at-home mothers are better mothers. “You’re our family,” Amy, then 25, yelled at her mother over the phone.Bryan, 23, kept repeating that he could no longer “trust” her. “I thought I was close to my children, but suddenly I felt like I didn’t understand them at all.” Why Grown Kids Don’t Like Your New Partner Throwing a hissy fit is a natural youthful reaction to divorced parents’ dating, says Dr. Lieberman, a psychiatrist in Beverly Hills, Calif., who is on the clinical faculty at the Semel Institute for Neuroscience and Human Behavior at UCLA.In fact, that is the big takeaway: Stop feeling guilty.